• Jade and M

    Luckier than I thought

    I’ve never been described as “lucky.”

    Most of my successes have come from hard work and determination. I rarely win contests of chance. I don’t gamble. And my favorite carnival game is the one where you turn over the floating duckies and call out the number on the belly because everybody wins a prize.

    When it came to finding my husband… well, I don’t know if luck or fate or coincidence was involved. Whatever it was, having M in my life has brought me more joy than anything else. More than books, more than cats, even more than chocolate.

    Happy Valentine’s Day, my heart.

  • Brat Child

    La Reine Est Morte. Vive La Reine!

    In the midst of grief, I’m unable to properly sum up the life of Brat Child.

    Let’s just say she always made an impression.

    Born Noel Ellena in 1997, Brat Child Walker Weir was adopted by my best friend Amy on Christmas. When Ames died two years later, I took in Brat Child and her sister Buddha (née Lily) and silently promised to make them feel safe and loved for the rest of their lives. Although I have cared for them longer than Ames did, in my mind, they were always her cats as well as my own.

    Brat Child came by her name honestly (via former stepfather John Rodgers), which is to say she was a bit of a terror. Whether she was beating up our dog Duncan like a clawless prizefighter or fending off sneak attacks by everyone else, Brat Child always managed to cause havoc. She liked to lie in my lap, for as long as it suited her, and would crawl into it even if there was another cat already present. If Brat Child was there first, however, beware!

    Brat Child loved eating tuna (but only from her own plate and not with those heathens we insisted on adopting), drinking from water fountains, hanging out on my shoulder while I worked, blithely stretching on the dining room table even though she knew full well she wasn’t supposed to, sleeping bonelessly (and sometimes falling off her bed/perch), stepping onto M’s laptop keyboard while trying to jockey for a better position in his lap, luxuriating in warm patches of sunlight or near heated radiators, kneading people’s jugular veins and resting on top of my desk chair. But her favorite activity was wraithing (see video below), a unique fighting game that involved rough-housing and making growling car engine noises.

    What I’ll remember most about Brat Child was not her bratty demeanor or insistence on being the matriarch of our home. It was how how sweetly she loved and how loudly she’d purr when comfortable or triumphant. She was a champion cuddler, particularly during winter months, and while her “requests” for lovin’ were more like demands, I enjoyed every encounter.

    At 17 years old, Brat Child was Ouiser Boudreaux from “Steel Magnolias,” Yzma from “The Emperor’s New Groove” and the Brain of “Pinky and the Brain.” Her Napoleonic dictates were the stuff of legend in our household, and her firm belief that she was born to rule the world seemed to appeal to all seven of her Twitter followers.

    When, like her first mother, Brat Child’s kidneys started to fail, she took the decline in stride. So much so that M and I foolishly convinced ourselves that she would live forever. Alas, it was not meant to be. Brat Child died this morning with her loving parents by her side. Thanks to a kindly veterinarian, she died bravely.

    Brat Child

  • 41

    The quiet birthday extravaganza

    So today, I am 41. Or, as I’ve taken to calling it, 40-something.

    Alas, 41 isn’t really one of those landmark moments in life. There’s no decade change. You don’t get any special perks for reaching it. And hey, it’s a whole year before 42. But, I’m still quite joyful about the achievement. I have somehow managed to live for more than four decades. Huzzah!

    Since this natal day is a minor one, I have chosen to celebrate it in a quiet fashion. Cake, cards, presents… check. Dinner out and possibly a movie, check check. Most importantly, I get to spend the day with M, and that is always a joy.

    Not just one day, either. We’re on vacation this week. All week. Together! (I’m using an exclamation mark here because I’m really excited.).

    With such opposing schedules, our marriage pretty much exists in two-hour bursts of daily companionship followed by one evening, one day and a morning of blessed weekendness. This week, however, we have seven full days of “us.” We even get to share the same bed. At the same time! (Some couples just don’t know how good they have it.)

    My heartfelt thanks go out to everyone who took the time to send cards, gifts, tweets, emails, Facebook posts and other birthday messages. I am utterly grateful to be so liked… so loved… and so old.

    (Photo by Vladvvm)

  • raven and books stamp

    A letterboxing adventure, part 2

    In an effort to dare myself to experiment more, I’ve set about about following Lu Ann Cahn’s example of engaging in fun and daring “firsts.” This is my list.

    One of these planned firsts involved going letterboxing, which, according to Atlas Quest “is an intriguing pastime combining artistic ability with delightful treasure-hunts in beautiful, scenic places.” You can learn more about it here.

    Last weekend, I put together a small bag of supplies (a rubber stamp, ink pad, letterboxing notebook, my cellphone) and piled into the car with M and our dog Duncan. The first park we visited turned out to be the wrong one, but after looking on the map for the actual location, we drove outside of town and parked next to a picnic pavillion. Then, the three of us trekked into the woods in search of the mysterious letterbox.

    Following the clues left on Atlas Quest, we climbed over trees, pushed aside leaves, stumbled over rocks, swatted away a million bugs and sweated buckets. Unfortunately, after about an hour of searching, M and I had reached the proverbial X on the map, but there was no treasure to be found.

    That’s right, our first letterboxing adventure was a total bust.

    I know there are people reading this who will say: “It wasn’t a bust. It’s the journey that matters, not the destination.”

    To those kind but delusional folks, I say PISH. If I could have teleported to the exact location and found the treasure, trust me, I would have. And I would have ended up a lot less hot, sweaty and annoyed.

    The only good thing about the whole experience was the end, in which we left the park and drove straight to Fast Eddie’s, one of our favorite ice cream stands. M and I both indulged in double scoops and Duncan cooled off with a small soft-serve vanilla in a cup.

    Despite this minor setback, I will not be deterred. Although our misadventure technically counts as a “first” and thus deserves to be crossed off my list, I plan to try again, because damn it, I must obtain at least one stamp!