• fear of dentist

    The power of dental dread

    Last week, I went to the orthodontist for yet another exam and braces-tightening. I’ve been doing this every eight to 10 weeks for more than two years now and I’m still not used to it.

    During this particular appointment, the ortho lamented my jaw’s lack of progress (me too, lady). She then jammed a small metal file in between my teeth and scraped back and forth, which is akin to hearing nails scratch a chalkboard — only in your mouth and with the addition of agony.

    Just before I fled the chair, the ortho took a moment to compliment my behavior, saying she was impressed by how I had handled my more recent appointments.

    As I mentioned at the time, my first dental visits since the fainting spell that broke my face involved undergoing brutal procedures that left me trembling and crying. Every subsequent visit has been slightly easier since I know what to expect, and more terrible, since I know what to expect. For example, I always keep yogurt and mashed potatoes in the house now because after each visit, my teeth and gums hurt so much that I’m unable able to chew food for a few days.

    There’s also the dread factor. The orthodontist’s office sends me a text and an email in advance of each appointment to remind me that I have more misery to endure. The moment those confirmation notices appear on my electronic devices, apprehension sinks into my bones. Which means I’m anxious before I even arrive and stressed during the experience itself. The post-work pain only reinforces that.

    So, when she praised my newfound ability to hide my feelings, I responded by pointing out all of the above. What I should’ve said was “thank you.” (Apparently, my ability to be graceful and diplomatic goes right out the window when I’m suffering teeth torture.)

    Needless to say, the ortho is skilled at her job. I have no doubt she means well. And I truly appreciate all of the hard work that she and the dentist and the periodontist and their techs have done to put my mouth back together. But when this whole rigamarole is over, I hope to never step foot in their offices ever again.

  • Manchester City Library

    All is not lost … nor forgotten

    The Manchester, N.H., chapter of the Silent Book Club recently launched a campaign to save local library books called The Forgotten Books Project.

    Apparently libraries will occasionally cull their collections, removing books that patrons haven’t checked out for a long time. With The Forgotten Books Project, our little book club hopes to rescue some of these soon-to-be lost tomes.

    Forgotten books projectWe contacted our local librarian and asked her for a list of the books that were the most likely to get the old heave-ho. Next, we began checking out the titles that interested us. I picked up my first batch this week (see image at right).

    I plan to read each title, of course, since the topics genuinely interest me. But, I’ll also receive great satisfaction in knowing that I’m saving them. Which means, others will have the opportunity to read these books too.

    Every time I look at this stack, I feel a bit like Oprah: You get to stay! And you get to stay!

    Perhaps there are some forgotten books at your local library? Now is the perfect time to discover what they are and check ’em out.

  • movies, tv, books, podcasts

    Last month in pop culture

    Best TV show I saw: “The Reluctant Traveler.” Eugene Levy prefers the inside to the outside, the relaxing to the adventurous and the known to the unfamiliar. This show examines what happens when such a person travels, and because Levy is a brilliant comedian and actor, it’s a blast to join him on the journey.

     

     

    I also enjoyed: “Poker Face.” Natasha Lyonne portrays a woman named Charlie who’s a human lie detector. When her unique ability lands her in hot water, she hits the road in her Plymouth Barracuda and ends up solving crimes in every town she hides in. Imagine if Jessica Fletcher and Columbo got on the mob’s bad side.

     

     

    Best movie I saw: M and I celebrated the anniversary of our first date over the weekend. Back in 2006, we watched the romantic comedy, “Serendipity,” starring John Cusack and Kate Beckinsale, despite being 600 miles apart (we chatted about it in IM). Seventeen years later, we’re still together and still watching that movie (or visiting the restaurant of the same name whenever we’re in New York City).

    Best thing I heard: My favorite podcast, “The Vinyl Cafe,” is sort of back, even though its beloved host, Stuart McLean, has died. His long-suffering producer, Jess Milton, has created a new podcast called “Backstage at the Vinyl Cafe,” where she posts a couple of classic stories from the shows and then adds a bit of behind-the-scenes commentary. I’m loving it.

    I also listened to: “The Grimmcast,” another podcast featuring behind-the-scenes commentary, this one about the show “Grimm.” The series, which ran on NBC from 2011 to 2017, featured a homicide detective with the ability to see magical creatures. Claire Coffee, Bitsie Tulloch and Bree Turner, who also appeared in the show, are watching the program for the first time and sharing details about the filming process. They also interview other members of the cast and crew and answer listener questions. If you’re a fan of the show, as I am, you’ll dig this weekly chat. And if you’ve never watched “Grimm,” why not start now? It’s fun.

     

     

    Best thing I read: “Lessons in Chemistry” by Bonnie Garmus is one of those books everyone raves about but you put off reading because it can’t possibly live up to the hype. The plot certainly interested me: A woman working as a chemist in the 1960s faces discrimination, recrimination and even violence due to her intelligence and gender. When she becomes the reluctant star of America’s most beloved cooking show, the heroine begins changing lives and seriously challenging the status quo. The cover art really turned me off, but on a whim, I decided to give it a chance and was pleasantly surprised by how much I enjoyed it.

     

     

    I’m also reading: National Trust Scones, a blog written by Sarah Merker that was recently featured in The New York Times. Back in 2013, Sarah and her husband joined the National Trust, a society that helps to conserve and manage historical properties in England, Wales and Northern Ireland. Over the next decade, she would visit these sites, taste the scones on offer and write a blog post about each experience. Since discovering her blog, I’ve not only started reading the whole shebang from the beginning, I’ve also purchased her book about the experience. (Note to self: Visit Brownsea Island in the summer and Hughenden at Christmas.)

     

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  • Rest in peace, George

    Wee George and Brigid

    Georgina Walker Weir died on Saturday. She was 14.

    George was the first kitten Marcus and I ever adopted as a couple. She was just 10 weeks old when we met her and her siblings at the local humane society. The litter was named after famous artists and she was called Cezanne. While it was difficult to choose just one, the wee black kitten with a small white spot on her chest quickly won our hearts.

    Before we could leave the building with our new furry girl, another cat stopped us. Brigid was a 1-year-old stray, skinny as a supermodel and a bit scraggly around the edges. She implored us to adopt her too and so we did. The moment Brigid and George met, they instantly bonded, mostly in a mother/daughter fashion. The two them would remain close until we lost Brigid in 2020, also at the age of 14.

    George was a rambunctious kitten, the sort who liked to explore, pounce, attack, wrestle and zoom. She was also the first cat I’ve ever had who liked to play fetch. We’d wad up a square of aluminum foil and toss it across the room. She’d run after it, bite down on the silvery ball and bring it back for more. She liked the way it bounced on the tile and wood floors and the texture of it against her teeth. At one point, we moved the living room couch and found dozens of those little balls hidden underneath. When she had finally exhausted all of her energy, George would fall asleep on my chest. I sense she was comforted by my warmth and steady heartbeat.

    “I’ll hug her and love her and call her George.”

    Over time, George grew into a big, beautiful cat with bright green eyes. She liked climbing on condos, watching the birds through the window, munching on catnip, rose petals or tuna and rubbing her face against hardcover books (especially plastic-covered library books). Not much of a cuddler, she would from time to time hop onto chair arms for pets or lie on our legs, especially if we used a blanket to create a hammock for her. When I was really lucky, she’d rest on my chest and purr, just like she did when she was young.

    Although she loved hanging out with Brigid, George wasn’t particularly fond of the other animals living in our home. In fact, she developed a reputation as a bit of a bully because she liked to sneak-attack Dany and Autumn, both of whom where older than her and had quieter dispositions. Of course once we adopted the litter of kittens in 2017, George received a lesson in karma, particularly when Treacle began sneak-attacking her.

    M and George keeping each other warm

    Because George was our first baby, and the first of many black cats we’d eventually adopt, Marcus and I often made exceptions to our house rules just for her. Unlike the other kitties, she was occasionally allowed into our bedroom, where she could curl up on the bed or on top of us while we slept. If M wasn’t around to see, I’d also open the door to the bedroom’s ensuite and George would saunter down the forbidden hallway, hop on the bench in the bathroom and receive booty-scritches.

    Once we lost Brigid, George turned inward. She preferred spending long stretches of time alone, either lying in sunspots or sleeping in her heated crates and condos. However, until she became too old and weak to do so, she’d still come downstairs at 3 a.m. to receive treats with the rest of the brood or to sleep in the suitcase next to me while I worked overnight.

    More recently, George was granted daily access to M’s cat-free office. The room would eventually include two heating mats, a variety of toys, a litter box, a small condo and special food brought in every day via a tray (a.k.a. room service). Since he works from home full-time, M and George bonded deeply during the last year of her life.

    There will never be another cat like her. We miss her so much already.

     

  • bakeoff

    Quote of the day

    “I don’t know who needs to hear this, but posting ‘new year, new me’ on social media won’t solve all your problems. Watching ‘Bake Off’ on the couch while you order books with pretty covers, however, absolutely will. Also, I am not a doctor.” –Jonathan Edward Durham